Are you listening? Yes dear, i'm hearing.

Here is the difference between hearing and listening: Hearing is simply the act of perceiving sound by the ear. If you are not hearing-impaired, hearing simply happens; Listening, however, is something you consciously choose to do. Listening requires concentration so that your brain processes meaning from words and sentences. Listening leads to learning. First of all, men are hearers and women are listeners, meaning, men simply hear because they are not hearing-impaired, but women, they listen to everything, every time, everywhere and are able to have thousands of conversations simultaneously. They say that men are task oriented individuals and inside their brains everything is compartmentalized, in other words, we cannot watch tv and talk at the same time. Of course there are few exceptions, but, that's the rule! Probably, that's why the wife cannot understand why her husband is sitting in front of the tv switching channels all the time, in reality, he's only resting, reposing, lazing, etc. The tv and remote control are only tools to help him to fully relax. His brain is in a compartment called "resting place", so when the wife talks to him (boy they talk), he will hear the wife as much as he will hear the tv, meaning, the words will enter in his left ear, pass through his head, and exit through his right ear, in other words, very little if any will stick to his brain. They say that men are single-taskers. Women, however, are very (extremely) multi-taskers, they can do everything at the same time. Other day, i listened to a pastor, he's a Boricua (Puerto Rican) dude, i'm not a "smile always, again i say smile" kinda person, but i laughed all the way through his message, his name is Mark Gungor and his book is called "Laugh your way to a better marriage: Unlocking the secrets to life, love..." (i just found in the net). When he was saying those things, i could picture myself and my wife in those situations and realizing how different we are. So, how is it possible for me to become one with my wife, since we are so different? The skeptical will say: "give up man, it's impossible!", but Jesus commanded me to become one with my wife, it means that it is possible! Again, oneness is not singleness, is likeness. As much as we pursue Christlikeness, we will reach the oneness target. So, do opposites really attract? If the answer is “yes” or “no”, to me it is irrelevant. What is relevant is the fact that there are a lot of benefits in opposite attraction, for example: I am calm, most the time slow and usually i think a thousand times before doing something. My wife, on the other hand, is easily irritated, most the time fast and don't think twice before doing something. Now imagine if she was like me? We would be called the "snail" family! But, if we were like her, we would be called the "cheetah" family! So, our differences make our marriage better, they improve our lives, they bring the "balance" needed for a successful (not perfect) marriage. So, problems and challenges are part of a "healthy" marriage, the issue is, solving the problems together. So, if you want a "problem free" marriage, don't get married! Of course, singleness is a gift from God. Paul wrote about marriage, 1 Corinthians 7, and gave the pros and cons about it, it is personal and its an everlasting commitment, till death do us part: 1 Corinthians 7:28.